How to Know He’s Watching Porn (5 Signs) | Indicators of Porn Use | Dr. Doug Weiss
Is he watching porn?
Dr. Doug Weiss has been free from sex addiction and has helped thousands to do so as well over the past 30 years. In this video, he discusses common signs that indicate your spouse is watching porn.
The way they act during your time of intimacy is a huge indicator. Asking for things in sex that you’re uncomfortable with or that’s way out of the norm might suggest that they’re attaching to a certain behavior in the porn world and is trying to act it out with you.
Your spouse using dirty and vulgar language during intimacy (instead of warm and relational words) that you wouldn’t say to someone you like, could indicate that they heard these things in pornography and experimenting with it.
If they overreact and are irrational with you when you politely decline from sex (once in a while, when you’re not in the mood for it that night), there may be pornography in the background.
Performance issues can occur from porn use and masturbation due to them not having to exercise relational skills and using less physical effort.
Being disconnected during sex, leaving you alone, empty, and used while they’re mentally in the porn world, is another sign.
If they’re protecting their phone or computer and you can’t get into where they’ve been, they are definitely protecting something.
Ask the questions. If you’re in a significant relationship or married, it’s ok for you to ask them if they’re looking at pornography. These common signs apply to both men and women.
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Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, “Partner Betrayal Trauma™”.
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0:00 Video Start
1:01 Uncomfortable Requests
1:40 What Is He Saying
2:28 Irrational Reactions
3:16 Performance Issues
4:17 Disconnected During Sex